Monday, August 8, 2016

Acceptance is the Hardest


Heather is never far from our thoughts. We all miss her every day but we have to accept that nothing is going to bring her back to us. That is the hardest part of all. I beg to have her come back, but that doesn't work. She is gone and nothing I can do will bring her back.

I know I haven't been writing as much, and for that I am sorry, but each of these posts rip through my soul a little more. I just have to learn to accept things. Life is like that. I'm not just talking about death, I am talking about life. If something in your life is bothering you, change it. Heather didn't want to be in a world like we have today. She didn't see anything worthwhile. The part that Heather didn't get, and many of us, is that we suffer with some things in our life, but we don't take the steps to change things.

If something is making you miserable, stop accepting that as your life. Look at what you want your life to be. What is your dream life? What would make your life better? What would make you happy to wake up every morning? Well, start working towards that. No, the change isn't going to happen overnight in most cases, but, there is nothing stopping you from changing your situation. It's a decision that you have to make yourself. No one can do it for you. Change isn't always easy, but, if you find something you want, changing what is holding you back is that much better. Take a step, one step at a time.

Let's say your are really feeling overwhelmed by something. You want to talk but you are afraid to share this. You don't want your friends to know. You are sure that if you share with your friends, others will just talk about you behind your back. How about going to talk to a therapist? They aren't going to gossip about what you share. They aren't going to post your private thoughts all over Facebook. Sometimes getting a third party involved is just the ticket. You can vent and you can have a new set of eyes look at what is getting to you, what is tearing you apart on the inside.

Instead of venting and holding things deep inside, let's decide to work towards change. Let's work to change our lives to be a life that makes us want to get up every morning. Find your happy place in this world. Yes, change can be hard, but sometimes the hardest thing to accept is that no change is the hardest part of all. If your life is miserable and you don't change things, every day you will wake up to the same misery. Let's work together. Look at our lives. Find what we really want and let's work towards that - one step at a time.